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Broke forever

January 21st, 2005 at 09:01 pm

My DH wants to be broke forever.

He agrees to spending money($40 for him and $20 for me) and then spends twice as much (so far the month is not over yet). He needs to show me that he's in control and not me. And it's kind of tiring.

I don't want to be in control I want us to be in agreement and it's hard when he keeps breaking the agreement!!

He told me last night someday (in the next two years) he's going to come home with a 27" TV. I suggest we start saving for it at $25/month we could have it in a year. But he refuses. He claims there'll be no other spending money (despite the fact that he's spent $40 extra this month alone, actually $60 if you count the "advance" he took at the end of last month, but who's counting? Not me. LOL).

Fine if he wants to stay as his crappy job and never see me then fine he can do that. I want to get out of debt and go back to school full time and get a decent job that I like. Not one where I'm unfulfilled and work my ass off for a company that doesn't really care that much about me. That's not really true, my bosses have been really great to me when it comes to working with my schedule.

I'm just really bitchy and sad tonight. I wish I could make him understand better why I want to do the things I do with money.

2 Responses to “Broke forever”

  1. Anonymous Says:

    I know how frustrating it can be when husbands & wives can't come to an agreement on finances. My husband & I were that way for years. But some how it all worked out. I'm no longer concerned about what he does as I can't change him. I can only control what I do, and I'm not always very good at that either. Eventually I learned not to care what he does. Now I'm a little more ate peace with it. I am praying for you. God Bless

  2. Anonymous Says:

    I assume you already showed him the budget and money in vs money out and all that, plus the math on the credit card? After all that is done, there is nothing you can do to change him. Sorry.

    Here is the unasked for advice from my big mouth. Sucks but try to focus on why you married him, instead of what is troubling you about him, makes sleeping with him easier Smile. Also makes him want to keep you happy, you know the cheap suprises, like an extra note in his lunch box telling him you love him. A back rub one night just cause. sneaking in the shower for the fun part of marrige, throwing on that way to short for public skirt to enjoy with a candelit midnight snack. all that stuff doesn't cost a cent, and might help him decide to do the same for you, if he is home getting a shower, he isn't out spending loot. Also is great excersise Smile.

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